I’m a tough cookie. I’ve always had the brush-yourself-off-and-carry-on mentality. I’m pretty sure I learned it from being the youngest of five children and growing up with a mother from England. That soldier-on mentality has taken me far. But for a long time, I had all the toughness with none of the compassion for myself. […]
The Quickest Way to Change Your World
“If I just had a man, this would be so much better.” “Things would be so much easier if I just made more money.” “If I just lost the weight, everything would look better.” These were real things I told myself on a daily basis. To me it made all the sense in the world […]
Taking the Long Way Home
Something has weighed me down for a long time. The funny thing about issues that weigh us down is that we can tell ourselves carrying that burden isn’t that bad. We eventually get used to feeling weighed down and even feel like something’s missing if it’s gone. I told myself for a long time that […]
Good Days and Bad Days
.. When I was first diagnosed with MS, a friend of mine bought me a journal to help me process everything. One side of the journal had a happy baby face with the title “Good Days,” and the other side had a crying baby face with the title “Bad Days.” I loved my kind, supportive […]
Life: Under New Management
I needed a mindset upgrade before I could reach the next level. My husband and I had the best waitress the other night. She was exactly what you want in a server – accommodating, generous, and personable. I said, “I bet the new management at this hotel is awesome – you can see their management […]
How Gratitude Can Hold You Back
It took me a while to realize the true nature of gratitude. Gratitude is great – don’t get me wrong. I would love everyone to live in gratitude every day. The world would be a better place. But don’t be fooled – gratitude can also hold you back in sneaky ways. It’s like your best […]
Is Your Inner Critic Working Overtime?
My inner critic is working overtime right now. I should pay her time and a half. She’s showing up to work early and not taking any breaks – not even for a smoke. (I imagine my inner critic to be an acerbic smoker with bad hair who heckles me with a raspy voice and has […]
Why We Feel Triggered By Certain People – and How To Stop
I need to start this post with a disclaimer: I love my family. I’m very close to them and they’ve always had my back. Having said that – often when I’m home, I feel about 50 lbs heavier and 20 years younger. And I know I’m not alone. Plenty of us feel “triggered” by certain […]