Woulda

In the past 2 weeks of this blog series, we have covered some serious ground.

We dropped ‘should’ from our vocabulary.
We found that we can do anything we want and don’t need supervision to stay in check.
We talked about the difference between wanting something out of pure desire and wanting something because you tell yourself you can’t have it.
We released the drama in our heads and started to find what we truly want in our heart of hearts.

And if you have done this – even just a little bit – you have started something big.

You have started cultivating trust in yourself.

Trust that you will do what is best for yourself at that moment.
Trust that you won’t hurt yourself or go off the deep end if you give yourself what you want.

And that is the start of a beautiful thing.

Trusting in myself was one of the hardest things I’ve learned. It was a big step, and it took time.
Just like the steps I give you in these blogs will take time.

I would start to do it little by little.

I first started to look at how I spoke to myself.
How often I taunted myself with a “you should be doing that, but you’re not” type of comment.
I wouldn’t catch it every time I did it, but I caught it enough to know I was doing it a lot.
And it felt like crap.

I then started looking at what I wanted.
I noticed what I wanted without judging it as ‘good’ or ‘bad’.
I just noticed.

Then I started to do what I wanted.
And I noticed how it felt each time.

Doing what I wanted felt amazing, but not because I allowed myself to go crazy and eat junk all day.

Doing what I wanted made me realize that I didn’t want to go crazy at all.
Trusting in my choices and myself is what let me see that.

This doesn’t have to be perfect.
You don’t have to catch yourself every time.
In fact it helps when you don’t. Because then you see the difference between the times you guilt yourself into doing something and the times you do something out of pure desire.
You see the difference in how you feel each time.

It’s a big one.

I know what I’m talking about in this series may be hard. It may seem like a huge leap of faith. (That’s because it is.)
But I hope you keep with it.

Trusting yourself in weight loss is a GINORMOUS step to making it last.

You are the only one who knows what you want.
And not only can you do what you want, you must do what you want.

Realizing that you don’t have to supervise yourself is huge.
It’s a key to making this a lifestyle change without relying on willpower.

We think that the only things holding us back from self-destruction are guilt trips and sheer willpower.
All that does is make us distrust ourselves even more.

And no matter how you slice it, it feels awful not to trust yourself.

Building trust in myself was a very powerful shift in my life.
One that I know will be equally powerful for you.

Learning to trust yourself takes time.
But it all starts with dropping the ‘shoulda’.
Dropping the guilt trips.
Opting instead to having a sit-down with yourself and asking what you really want to do in that moment.

And don’t be afraid of the answer.

Because knowing the answer to ‘what would you do’ is where the connection and trust in yourself begins.