To My People

This blog is dedicated to my people.

My people are the ones who think they’re doomed to go back and forth between
“Oh my gosh – LOOK at you!  You’ve lost so much weight!” and
“PLEASE don’t put me in the picture.”
The ones who think weight loss is a struggle and simply about using willpower to make it through the tough times.
The ones who can’t remember a time when they didn’t think about “the weight”.
The ones who are shocked when they see pictures of themselves because they didn’t know it had gotten “so bad”.
The ones who think they will never be skinny again.
The ones who secretly worry that bad things will happen if they do lose weight.

I want to offer you a new line of thinking.

None of these things are true.  None of them.

Weight loss is not about a struggle.  Food cannot love you back.  Willpower is not meant to be tapped all day, every day, for the rest of your life. There is no unseen force that is dooming you to a cycle of gaining and losing weight.

Weight loss is about a relationship with your body.  A truly loving relationship where you listen, cherish and give what is needed.  A relationship where loving yourself and your body doesn’t depend on a number on a scale.

I know this because I lived this struggle.  Where it was always a conscious effort to “make better choices”. Where one slip-up led to a week of “whatever- I don’t care”. Where I was constantly telling myself that it was just about making healthy choices, then beating myself up when I couldn’t do it.

I love that I can tell you with complete confidence, that the struggle is crap.

I want to help you put your weapons down and relax into your truth.  Your truth about what you’re thinking.  Your truth about what you’ve really been feeling all this time.  Your truth about why you have been overeating and why you eat when you’re not hungry.  Your truth about why you feel like you’re constantly starting over.

Uncovering that truth is where the healing begins.  And even better, it can begin right now.  Without another minute lost.

So this blog is for you.

I am offering you love, empathy and the truth, as I know it.

I want you to know that you are not alone. That you don’t have to be ashamed of what you’re doing. You don’t have to control yourself more or be afraid.

Of anything.

I want you to know that you are beautiful and whole. Right now. As you are. Without another pound lost.

Because that, my dear, is where this starts.